Thursday, June 30, 2011

Two Kisses for Maddy by Matthew Logelin {Review}

My reading habits have been abysmal this year. I don’t think I finished a book in March or April and that is just a tragedy. Luckily, I was able to bounce out of my reading slump with a truly incredible memoir by a local author and way famous blogger, Matthew Logelin. I have followed his blog fairly regularly the last few years as has most of the people in my social circle, plus he was on Oprah, so I knew the story of the untimely death of his wife Liz a day after the birth of their daughter Madeline.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a complete sap. I cry at commercials, greeting cards, notes the Princess writes for me, basically I will tear up at the drop of a hat.

Since I felt so personally connected to Matt, Maddy, and Liz’s story from reading his blog, I was very hesitant to read his book because I knew that I would spend the majority of the time I was reading in the ugliest cry imaginable. Then my friend Wan volunteered to host book club and through her stalking attendance at several of Matt’s book signings, they became quite friendly and he happily agreed to come to our book club and be a part of our discussion.

I know right? How awesome is that?

So basically, I had to man up and read the book, which btw I had already bought and had sitting in my always bountiful “to be read” pile on my bookshelf. I decided to read it in stages so I could limit the amount of ugly cry, but really, I was a mess by the second page of the foreword and just decided to push through and read the whole thing in one sitting only stopping to blow my nose and check Twitter.

So anyway, the book is awesome. When someone opens themselves up to the degree that Matt has, you really can’t help but love it. It’s real, and raw, and overpowering in its emotion but in a totally good way. I felt very fortunate to be allowed this kind of access into such a tragic and personal event. I was moved by Matt’s candor and by the fact that he was not afraid to write completely as himself, (f-bombs and all) and just talk about the real truth of what it’s like to lose your best friend and life partner, how angry and scared he was, and how difficult it is to raise a kid on your own when you were completely unprepared to do so.

Matt’s presence at our book club was quite frankly, amazeballs. He is truly one of the nicest, most down to earth people I have ever met, and I don’t just mean out of authors, I mean literally in the thousands of people I’ve had the fortune (or misfortune) of meeting, he’s probably in the top 20, maybe even 10 if I sat and thought about it. Since I was all author-struck and also in a food coma from all of the awesome grub we had at book club (oh yes, we are hardcore about our menu and it is always the bomb dot com) I neglected to take any pictures, plus part of me felt like a huge a-hole taking pics of the poor man and his child for my own posterity (you know said pictures would totally end up on Facebook) when he was so sweet to come and talk about his book with us. Luckily Wan…who btw, is a fabulous hostess and photographer took a bunch of pictures of the entire day and posted them on her blog, where you can see Matt, my fabulous book club ladies, and me in my signature color (naturally) grinning like an idiot.

I definitely recommend reading this book, just be sure to bring along with a box of tissues and an open heart because once you’ve finished it may be filled with hope and gratitude as mine most surely was.

Monday, June 27, 2011

One of Life's Highlights...

The unexpected opportunity to go to a fabulous wedding.

Having a blast at said wedding.

Then capping the night by making of a complete arse of yourself in the photo booth.





Totally and completely FTW.

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Just a Tale...No Fairies.

Picture it. Los Angeles, 2005.

A 25 year old recently divorced single mother of a not quite two year old little girl moves out of her mother's house where she'd been staying since her husband kicked her out of their home at 8 months pregnant into a one bedroom apartment.  This marks the first time in her quarter century of life that she's been truly on her own. No husband, no mom, just her. She makes only slightly above minimum wage and has no college degree, only determination to not ever be dependent on anyone and to give her daughter the best life possible.

She goes back to school, surrounds herself with really good friends, and contemplates dating again.

Then she has some setbacks.  She loses her job when the company folds and has to scramble to get another one. She starts dating a series of losers, that she will later on refer to humorously as The Thug, The Homeless, and The Jizzer.

Then she gets sick. Super sick and depressed and scared and worried that she'll spend her daughter's formative years withering away into nothing and never get the chance to see her princess graduate from high school or college or get a tattoo or get married or have her own children.

She wallows. She cries. She hibernates inside her apartment watching bad reality tv. She loathes her ex and his wife and everything their happily ever after represents.

Miraculously, some months later she finds out she's going to be ok. It's a long road to recovery and she's swamped in medical bills but she's just happy she's healthy again.

She gets another job where she's on the bottom of the totem pole but it's a good company where she thinks she'll be happy.

She stops focusing on her ex, moves into a bigger apartment, devotes herself to her relationship with her daughter and manages to make some new friends and reevaluate her relationships with her old ones. Her little girl is beautiful and smart and sassy and truly the best part of her life.

She doesn't have money for fancy things, just your basic necessities with a few treats here and there. For the first time in her life she has her own room and for the first time in years she has an actual bed...mattress AND boxspring. Her daughter is happy, she's happy and feels like life can only improve.

Today that girl is 30ish woman. She still feels like life can only get better from here and knows that if she works hard, she can do anything. (Yes she knows how cheesy she sounds) In fact, she was recently promoted to the top position in her company and given a raise that has moved her into a different tax bracket for the first time in a decade.  She still has to watch her pennies because we are after all in a recession and she's notoriously frugal, but the burden of near poverty has been considerably lightened and she's able to think of a future with extras.

She wishes she could go back in time to hug her 25 year old self and tell her that everything is going to be just fine and it really actually does get better. Her life isn't perfect, but it's hers and she's in control of it. Whether she gets married again, has more children, or ever actually inspires John Mayer to pledge his love to her through song is yet to be determined but looking back on all she's survived only makes her confident that her future is incredibly bright and she's ready for whatever else may come.


PS- You totally get that this girl is me right? 


PPS- I know you're not an idiot...I was just checking.


PPPS- John Mayer if you're reading this...feel free to start experimenting with melodies anytime.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Grievances: Celebrity Edition

Dear Celebrity Media Peeps,
Justin Bieber is 17. Selena Gomez is 18. Publishing pictures of them making out is incredibly inappropriate and borderline pedophilic. You might as well lurk on a high school campus after a Sadie Hawkins dance. See? Gross. Cut it out before I sic Chris Hanson on you.
Sincerely,
Someone's Mother

Dear Governator,
Really? Really? Really?
Sincerely,
REALLY?

Dear Kim Kardashian,
Congratulations on your engagement. Can I maybe *not*see you for awhile now? Pretty please?
Sincerely,
Totally Over Keeping Up With You

Dear Maria Shriver,
It gets better. I promise.
Xoxo,
Been there, done that
PS- Please say hi to Oprah and ask if she got my email!

Dear 2008 version of me,
Twilight sucks. Snap out of it or you will spend a year contemplating the biological components of vampire semen...no, seriously you will.
Sincerely,
The 2011 and obviously much smarter version of you

Dear 1996 version of me,
Why yes, Leo is beautiful in that fish tank but he prefers young and leggy blondes. That will never be us.
Sincerely,
Already Faced Reality...pass the Nachos

Dear People who make The Bachelor/Bachelorette,
Thank you for continuing to validate me as a rational, sane and together woman who will never ever go on television to fight 24 other chicks for a man.  Nor will I have to select a husband from a group of emotional damaged man children.
Sincerely,
Here for the Right Reasons